I have no holiday traditions, I’m sad to say. I have found it hard over the years to create or keep a tradition. I was raised in a divorced family, with each parent having remarried and splitting my time between the ever enlarging family, it was hard to make traditions. Then with my own kids & ex, we weren’t together long enough to create traditions, that I can recall, to pass along to our children. This makes me kind of sad when I really stop to think about it. I had tried to make both kids an ornament each year, that got side tracked at some point.
I was looking through my Christmas journals and found them to be quite sad and skimpy. It seemed I was either too crazy busy to enjoy the holiday (this is after I stopped being drugged up for a few years) or I wasn’t busy at all and had hardly anything going on. Over the years friends would have gatherings and parties and whatnot to welcome in the season, but we haven’t done that for YEARS. No girls craft night, no drinks out, hardly anything, I’m not even sure which friends are still talking to each other.
At this point I wish I had the big house & picket fence all decked out for Christmas and New Years. Friends and family come to visit. The kids sliding on the first snow, the tree trimmed, the fireplace lit, and everyone being joyous and pleasant. Is it sad that I some times dread gatherings, due to the drama, the sniping, the crap that others cannot just let go of and get by? It is kind of depressing as heck to think about.
I can remember as a child before the divorce that we’d visit the grandparents and open gifts with them, or we’d open a gift at home. We use to have this guy in the neighborhood who would dress as Santa and bring all the kids a toy on Christmas eve. I’m sure that a parent or grandparent would set him up with it first. I don’t recall how often this happened but it was at least a couple, that I can recall.
What family traditions do you have (or had) or wish to have?